Do you call yourself an empath? Do others come to you to fix their problems? Do you always feel obliged to help out but find yourself exhausted, frustrated, ignored and abandoned?
People pleasing is not a personality trait, it’s a trauma response – a way of keeping ourselves safe in unpredictable or unsafe childhoods. You may believe you were a born empath, someone whose natural inclination is to care for others, but this is a learned response – and I’m sure always pleasing others has worn you down. Maybe you’ve already hit rock bottom, or you feel you’re close to it.
Good news. There is another way!
Download the Recovering People Pleaser Course today and you’ll gain access to a simple and straight forward approach that will help you stop pleasing and start putting yourself first.
The course is packed with fascinating insights that will give you a new understanding of how pleasing impacts your behaviour, relationships, and beliefs. Plus, you’ll get lots of actionable solutions and ideas that can help you make real and lasting changes.
If you’re burnt out from always being everything to everyone, you may be a people pleaser. But I want you to know you can change – and I can show you how.
I spent most of my life trying to be the good girl who never said or did the wrong thing, who always put others first, who obsessed over being perfect and never upsetting anyone.
I was also someone who was chronically angry, frustrated and relied on a bunch of unhealthy coping mechanisms to soothe my aching heart and get my needs met (hello alcohol and shopping!) And it made me so unhappy.
After training as a psychotherapist, I discovered the concept of people pleasing and it was a major light bulb moment. I realised I was a people pleaser!
I became obsessed with understanding what this behaviour looked like and where it came from. I have worked with hundreds of clients and started learning how to help them change their unhealthy patterns and replace them with healthy boundaries, whilst learning how to help myself too.
I realised two things:
1. People pleasing is very, very common and
2. I had developed a way to help people make real & lasting changes.
That’s why I have put together the Recovering People Pleaser Course. It’s packed with everything you need to understand what People Pleasing is, where it comes from, the dangers of pleasing, how it affects your personality and relationships and how you can start discovering your values, developing healthy boundaries and lots more.