What does people pleasing look like?
People pleasing can present in our lives in lots of ways, big and small. It can be everything from feeling compelled to say yes to requests, not offering an opinion out of fear of upsetting others or always allowing others to call the shots. Not sure if people pleasing is a problem for you? Take a look at the following people pleasing behaviour and see if it sounds familiar:
- You pride yourself on being agreeable, dependable and supportive – but find yourself feeling frustrated and exhausted
- The idea of being seen as difficult or self-absorbed is abhorrent to you – so you make sure you never are
- You do anything to avoid confrontation – disagreements or tension make you uncomfortable
- You feel guilty for having needs – so never ask for support
- You question or discount your opinions – so keep them to yourself
- You see everyone else as more important than you – and think little of yourself
- You seek everyone’s approval through your pleasing behaviour– but still feel like you’re never enough
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How is People Pleasing Hurting you?
You’ve probably started to notice the effects of your people pleasing behaviour and you’re curious about making changes- but probably also scared too. It’s natural to feel this way and feel stuck in your pleasing behaviour. But the first step in making lasting changes is to acknowledge just how much people pleasing is hurting you.
Here are some ways you people pleasing is damaging you:
- You’re burnt out & tired of putting everyone else first
- You feel taken advantage of – at work, home and in friendships
- Your anxiety is getting worse – which may be affecting your sleep, work and overall sense of well-being
- Your self-esteem is low – and you don’t know how to change
- You don’t know who you are or what you need – if it’s not pleasing others
- You’re suffering from niggling health problems you can’t seem to shake
- You’re stuck in an unhealth relationship – and can’t see a way out
- Perfectionism is your go to – but nothing is ever good enough and it’s driving you crazy
Stop People Pleasing - for good!
If you’ve reached a point where you’re thinking, no more! And you’re ready to stop being a people pleaser, you now have the chance to make real and lasting changes to your behaviour, your relationships, your well-being and your sense of self. Download the Recovering People Pleaser course and you’ll get:
- A Checklist to see if you’re a people pleaser – and what to do about it!
- Learn the psychology behindpeople pleasing
- Cognitive Restructuring Package– with all the tools to help you move from pleaser to the genuine self you were always meant to be
- Managing Emotions– your guide to understanding & managing them
- Value AssessmentPackage – to give you the structure to make changes
- Guide toBuilding Boundaries – that you’ll actually stick to!
- Self-CareRoutine & Intentions Planner – to keep you on track
Recovering People Pleaser Course
Kirrilly Falivene
People Pleasing Expert
“I believe everyone has the capacity to grow into their most empowered selves. That’s why I am so passionate about sharing my People Pleasing Recovery approach.”
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