Many people pleasers struggle to set boundaries. Hell, most of us don’t even know what our boundaries are! And this can leave us disconnected from our needs and emotions. So, let’s explore how being a people pleaser messes with our boundaries…and what we can do about it. 1. The People-Pleasing Phenomenon People-pleasing stems from a […]
Blurred Lines – the cost of broken boundaries Read Post »
This might be controversial but being an empath isn’t always a strength. As a people pleaser, my ability to empathise was something I prided myself on—until I realised that being an empath often meant I was abandoning my own needs and feelings. Unravelling this truth was not easy, but it was crucial for my growth
When being an empath means abandoning yourself Read Post »
As a counsellor (and a self-confessed over-thinker!) I often go down the rabbit hole of self-reflection. There can be so much to learn through self-awareness, but it can be a bit of a thought trap, and we all know too much introspection can lead to over-thinking and rumination. In saying that, I have been spending
5 Ways I Learned to Speak My Truth Read Post »
Tips for holding boundaries and disagreeing with grace When I began to realise I was a people pleaser, one of the first things I noticed about my pleasing behaviour was my inability to disagree with people. I would nod along when I deep down, I really wanted to speak up. This behaviour would leave me
NO is a full sentence! Read Post »
Let me count the ways! My insights into why I jump in to fix other people’s problems – and how I’m learning to stop For as long as I can remember, I’ve felt an overwhelming urge to play the peacemaker. It stemmed from a deep-seated desire to help and maintain harmony – and a fear
How do I rescue thee? Read Post »
Feeling overwhelmed? You’re not alone.. How many times have you felt overwhelmed recently? Once or twice? Every week? Every day? Over the last year, most of us could admit to feeling this way and that’s understandable given the circumstances we’ve found ourselves in, but if that crushing feeling is becoming an all too familiar experience,
The Overwhelmed Woman Read Post »
Do you find yourself constantly worrying? Do you beat yourself up about something you’ve said to someone and worry you’ve somehow offended them? Are you always focussing on what you’ve done wrong, should have done better or never ‘get right’? Do you spend hours reading and re-reading texts, wondering what their ‘true’ meaning is? If
What is the Triple Bind and how is it tying our daughters’ hands? There’s a problem facing young women today and it’s creating a generation of us who are becoming crippled with anxiety and depression and resorting to an array of unhealthy coping mechanisms to get through each day. Psychologist Dr Stephen Hinshaw calls it
Self-care has become a byword for taking care of yourself, but when it comes to our emotions, they’re often left behind. Here’s how you can reconnect with your inner self through emotional self-care. Self-care has been defined as, “a multidimensional, multifaceted process of purposeful engagement in strategies that promote healthy functioning and enhance well-being.”1 In
What is Emotional Self-Care? Read Post »
When you run your own business, you’re constantly wrestling with some level of fear. The never-ending quest to gain and keep clients, increase profits, and grow your brand forces us to keep pushing day after day, even on the days when we really (and I mean really) don’t feel like it. As someone who makes
An Ice Way to Face Your Fears Read Post »
